Restorative Dialogue
A survivor-centered process for truth-telling, accountability, and healing
Restorative dialogue in cases of sexual harm is a trauma-informed, voluntary process that offers survivors an opportunity to seek answers, express the impact of the harm, and explore accountability in a safe and supported setting. This process is guided by the needs, pace, and choices of the survivor at every stage.
Unlike punitive or adversarial systems, restorative dialogue creates a structured space where survivors and those responsible for harm—if they choose to participate—can engage in a facilitated conversation focused on healing, responsibility, and repair. This process is grounded in principles of dignity, safety, and respect, with a strong emphasis on preparation, informed consent, and ongoing support.
It is not a replacement for legal or therapeutic options, but can be an impactful complement for those who seek an alternative pathway to justice.
Restorative Dialogue Timeline
1. Survivor Intake & Preparation
Survivors meet confidentially with a trained facilitator to explore whether restorative dialogue is right for them. This stage may involve multiple conversations to understand goals, assess safety, and build trust.
This phase is open-ended and guided by the survivor’s readiness—often taking several weeks or longer.
2. Assessment & Preparation with the Person Who Caused Harm
If the survivor chooses to proceed, the facilitator may begin separate sessions with the person who caused harm. This phase includes truth-telling, taking responsibility, and preparing them emotionally and practically for possible dialogue.
Only occurs if the survivor consents. This phase can take several weeks to months and may involve multiple sessions.
3. Dialogue Design & Consent
The survivor decides if, when, and how a dialogue should take place. Facilitators work with both parties (separately) to design a process that prioritizes emotional safety, including who will be present, the structure of the meeting, and what will be shared.
4. The Restorative Dialogue
In a carefully facilitated space, the dialogue takes place—either in person or through other formats (e.g., written, virtual, or indirect dialogue). The goals may include acknowledgment, accountability, explanation, or repair, depending on the survivor’s wishes.
The dialogue may last several hours, with frequent breaks and opportunities for reflection.
5. Follow-Up & Ongoing Support
Facilitators check in with all parties after the dialogue to support reflection, integration, and healing. Additional resources or referrals may be provided as needed.